Attracting Your Match
April 2005



You Attract Your Equivalent
What you are willing to receive and who you are willing to be, determines who and what you attract into your life. Let’s look at love as one example. In his book Dear Lover (which I highly recommend to any woman — it is like reading a collection of love letters to yourself), David Deida states, that if you don’t have a man who fully loves and opens you, then “you are probably not fully offering your heart to be claimed….You always attract and inspire a man as deeply committed to opening in love as you are-right-now…” Isn’t this true in all areas of life? This is pivotal.

How Open are You?
It is crystal clear to me is that my beliefs and how open I am to feeling my desires, determine my life experiences. Many of us have shut off our feelings to keep ourselves safe and strong. Now I explore clients’ beliefs and how they see themselves. Do you believe you can have an amazing life? Do you believe it is possible to be successful, happy, in a fabulous, loving relationship? Do you love yourself? David Deida’s perspective highlights this truth — whether in love, career, happiness, family. You only attract and inspire people and opportunities as deeply committed and open as you are.

Letting Go of Shore
At some point you must choose to let go of the shore to experience the beauty of the sea. Often we hold to shore, to our place of comfort, fearing failure or worse, success. What happens if I truly allow myself to open and love in the way I am able, being vulnerable? What happens if I immerse myself in the feeling of being wildly successful, every cell in my body alive with excitement? How will you know the bliss of living your desires if you hold back? Immerse; get into the water and feel it.

Opening You
Begin with consciously opening yourself. Imagine opening, softening into the kind of love you desire by softening yourself, your head, neck, heart, belly, feet. Envision opening yourself to the success you have awaited, the prosperity you’ve yearned for, the true love you desire, the life you’ve always wanted. The difference is feeling it in your body rather than simply “thinking” about success or visualizing yourself achieving your goal. Deeply feel this opening in your body. This was incredible to me as I moved through my body and felt the tightness, the holding back, keeping myself safe, rather than the softness, openness and freedom of love and inspiration. Immediately I see the result of feeling, softening, and opening. Where is it that you need to soften? How can you expand your commitment to yourself, to your love, your work, your success?

Wouldn’t it be amazing if we could remain open to our deepest desires and truth, that we may attract our reciprocals in every area of life?

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