From last month's cliffhanger:
"And then, in conjunction with my pivotal choices, there was a massive "shift in the universe" within a month.
And yes, it was absolutely worth the wait."
I Think I Messed up My Life
There was a point in time when I thought I'd messed up my life plan, missed my opportunity. "I shouldn't have been so focused on my business in my early 30's! What if I was supposed to marry ____ years ago and now it's too late?"
Be gentle with yourself. When you live in alignment with your values, priorities and your true self, you are on your path and can't "mess up your life." However, when you are lying to yourself and others, dishonoring your body, gifts and values, then you might be taking a detour; it doesn't mean you reach your destination. It is never too late to shift your course.
New Choices and Seeming Randomness
Adopting a 6-8 month old stray/adopted dog on top of complete inexperience as a dog owner was bold. A few weeks after getting Cooper, I met this man Todd for the 4th time; he came to the Saturday yoga class I teach. We'd met once in August 2006, and again in June 2007. The 2nd time I invited him to a BBQ party and he brought his (well-trained) dog, Sanford, along. Being a busy hostess, I didn't talk to him much. Weeks later though, after the yoga class, we talked and decided to make a play-date for the pups. (Cooper had boundless energy and I was desperate to exercise him and learn training tips. And, Todd was cute.)
Todd was a new "type" for me, not fitting my usual model in many ways. (For one, he was actually available!) However, I was a little guarded, having been dumped or disappointed for several months, and I was unsure if this new type of guy was for me. Unintentionally, I made him work pretty hard while I considered. However, he hung in there and within a few weeks, we realized we'd found the love of our lives.
I KNOW!
Falling into Place
In a very short period of time we discovered that we were in perfect alignment. We'd worked on ourselves and our "stuff" that held us back. Having kids was a yes! "All in." Our communication was incredible and the more I got to know him, the more I loved him.
It felt effortless.
Here's a snapshot of our 8 ½ months thus far:
At 3 weeks - seriously considering marriage-we just knew.
Start of Nov: Moved again-but to Todd's house!
Nov 18th: Todd proposed (and I said yes!)
By January: Set a date and full swing wedding planning
Feb 29th Bought a new home. (Space for kids--hooray!)
Now: remodeling the home before moving in (July); honeymoon is booked!
Most days: delight
It goes to show that when we are on our path, accepting and loving life as it already is, living in alignment with ourselves, and the time is right, chaos finds order.
Timing is Everything
You may feel ready right NOW for whatever it is that you are anxiously anticipating in your life. However, this is where we must release control and trust that when the time is right you'll know.
When Todd and I started comparing life notes we realized we were literally right around the corner from each other for years:
· In 1993 I road-tripped to Portland OR where I lived for 5 months. Todd lived there too.
· For 3 years I lived Westchester County, NY (just north of NYC). I took the train into Grand Central Station in NYC frequently in '99 & 2000 . I moved to Denver Oct. 2000 and lived on Logan Street. Todd lived on Logan Street about 8 blocks south of me. That spring he left Denver to go to NYC for 3 years where he commuted by train via Grand Central Station daily. In 2004 I started renting an office on Logan Street--Todd had returned his Logan Street home.
· For 4+ years I taught yoga 6 blocks from Todd's house, driving by his house well over 400 times.
· Of all the financial planners in Denver, we have the same one.
· We met 4 times before I actually "got it."
How many times, I wonder, did I walk right by him, never knowing that he was the man of my dreams? How many times did I drive by his house, not knowing that one day it would be my home too? How long even, did it take me once I met him to wake up to his greatness and recognize my own readiness?
You just never know where and when your opportunity awaits you. Why not live happily along the way, being true to yourself, trusting that when the time is right, you will know. We just knew.
Dreams really do come true.
In celebration of you, your spectacular dreams, and of how amazing this world really is.
Joy,
Robin
Robin and Todd
