Decision-making has proven challenging to me through the years.  Only recently have I started to get a handle on how amazing it is to choose rather than dwell in "the wavering."  Historically there've been so many things that I enjoy in life, so many options and possibilities, I simply didn't want to miss out!  What would happen, however, is that I'd sit undecided in suspended animation for a ridiculous period of time, leaving me mentally, physically and emotionally spent as I mulled my options over and over and over again.  Exhausting and disempowering!

 

What I've discovered is that simply choosing, without wavering, is powerful.  A friend told me "Any decision is better than no decision."  It is so true.  And what's more, when my choice comes from trusting myself, it reinforces my faith in me.  With each choice, I begin to trust myself more in all areas of my life.

 

Inconsistency

Many of us find some areas easy for decision making and others difficult.  For me, it is no longer difficult to decide whether or not to eat wheat.  I am really clear that the short term indulgence is not worth how crummy I feel for several days.  The repercussions outweigh the "fix."  There are other areas of my life however, that I've just recently learned to manage with new-found clarity.  The areas of difficulty offer the greatest learning as well as immense potential to reclaim wasted energy.

 

If you are incredibly decisive in one or more areas of your life and not in others, consider what might be the cause of the difficulty.  How does the level of risk feel different?  What do you imagine the inconsistency stems from and how can you take greater responsibility for it?

 

Bridging the Gaps

There is a huge distinction between sitting back and passively letting life happen vs. intentionally choosing all aspects of your life.  When I sit down to do work with an "I have to get this done" attitude it is draining.  When I sit down and choose to do my work, it gives me energy, I feel motivated.  Either way, I'm doing my work, yet the impacts on me are worlds apart (not to mention the quality of work I produce.)  Choosing is incredibly powerful because I am fully participating in my life.

 

Strengthening my ability to choose is like any skill-based sport.  At first it feels awkward, uncomfortable, and requires a lot of effort.  Just as in sports, gradually new "muscles" and patterns are established.  Before long, the skill simply is.  My body and mind know what to do and it becomes nearly effortless and I trust myself immensely.

 

Into Action

What decisions have you been postponing or skirting around?  Choose a response.  Now, today, don't delay.  Don't move on until you've made the choice.  And trust yourself.  Let go of second guessing.  Lately when I feel the urge to delay a choice, I catch myself and instead take action.  I've found that it isn't necessarily easier later, and in the meantime I waste energy worrying about it.  So I've begun to choose in that moment and it is amazing.  I feel lighter, more energized and free.

 

A fabulous quote says, "Leap and the net will appear."  What would it be like to stop waiting for your life to begin and start to choose now?  What are you willing to commit to, to take a stand for?  Choose powerfully today and trust that you are exactly where you need to be.

 

"It's in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped." Anthony Robbins

 

Happy Summer,

Robin